In a dog eat
dog environment, where people are being hurt or are in fear of being hurt, they
will try to gain control of the situations they find themselves in. They may
even try to gain control of you!
If a person
does not trust their ability to control themselves or stay in control of their
situation, they will attempt to control everything and everyone around them
that may include you!!
When a
person feels wronged or is afraid of being wrong, they will endeavour to do
everything and anything to ensure everything goes the way they want it to go. They
realise that the only way to have that kind of power is to be in
control. Control comes in many guises, it can be in your face or sweet and
seductive. It’s imperative that whatever guise it comes in, you are able to see
it for what it is and recognise when you, in turn, fall foul.
Know the
signs:
- You’re fighting to prove you’re
right
- You lie to prove you’re right
- You have a need to be right
- You are yelling in order to be
heard
- The only view that makes sense
is yours
- The only thing that matters is
what matters to you
- You’re still giving reasons why?
After someone has said no
- You think if someone gets what
they want or need you will not get what you want or need
- You jump on someone else’s case
to keep them off yours
- You believe someone can and will
hurt you and you are trying to avoid it
To date, you
might have been unaware of how the fear of being hurt or wrong has influenced your
decisions, thoughts and your daily walk. As from right now, check yourself for
the symptoms of control listed above, be devoted to becoming aware of the
things you do to obtain and maintain control!!
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